The Bad News: Living in the modern world teaches guys to be what author bell hooks calls “emotional cripples”. We begin rejecting parts of ourselves as boys, and end up as men who don’t know who the hell we are, or why we’re here. By our early thirties, we’re usually overworked, overstressed, and struggling with our closest relationships. We feel trapped, anxious, afraid, depressed, and frustrated. Maybe we’re addicted. Maybe we’re just exhausted. Most of us are surviving instead of really living our lives.
The Good News: There's a way out of the anxiety, depression and exhaustion. And that work begins by identifying and owning everything we've repressed or kept hidden to survive as men in a world that encourages us to shut down, toughen up, "be a man". Most of us have decades of these discarded, hurting, angry, embarrassing, shameful parts of ourselves that are dying to come out and be acknowledged.
Most men focus outside themselves. But that's where I come in: As someone who spent years befriending my insides, I'll be your guide on the path to reclaiming all the hidden parts of yourself. An inward process that Jungian scholar and author Robert Johnson calls: The only work that matters.
The funny thing about our darkest inside stuff is that it seems really dangerous and powerful when it's hidden, but the moment we start shining a little light on it, you see it's pretty harmless.
(Like in the Scooby Doo cartoons when the ghoul that had been terrorizing the castle was just a bunch of duct tape and sheets.)
And by expressing feelings we never felt, and owning parts of ourselves we've discarded, we move towards the ultimate goal of personal work: Wholeness. In a whole state we accept ourselves fully and emerge ready to boldly offer our talents to the world. Exciting, right?
Here are what some of my clients have said about working with me:
"Working with Sean over the past three months has been a life changing experience. He immediately made me feel safe and comfortable, and he's motivated me to open my mind and soul in ways that I've struggled to accomplish in my adult life. I look forward to our hour every week and honestly wish it could be more. In short, I'm beyond grateful that we've crossed paths."
-Brian, New York, NY
"Working with Sean has been an absolute turning point for me. He provides me with an overflow of clarity, discretion and empathy while holding me accountable to living a life that I desire. Our sessions are a highlight of my week - I know every time I'll walk away feeling heard and empowered."
-Sterling, San Francisco, CA
Still interested in Coaching with me? Let’s set up some time to chat.
Email: sean [dot] hotchkiss [at] gmail [dot] com